My Confession: My marriage will bankrupt me, so I'm making plans to leave

Before we got married, my husband and I shared my place intermittently. He had a full-time job but took a buyout because he had plans to start a business. I went to college and always made more, but it didn't seem to be a problem. We held separate accounts and paid bills and stuff individually. Then, just before our engagement, everything tanked. His business went under, and he convinced me to move out of my rented apartment to save money. It didn't, and I ended up paying for the wedding. At the same time, I was picking up ALL other expenses for us — utilities, groceries, car payments, daily pocket money for both of us, etc. It's a good thing I have a good job. He kept saying that money would be coming, but it never did. I tried to be understanding and helpful, but it was probably just plain stupid in the end. I had never dealt with anyone like this before.

He started three more businesses in the next three years. They all tanked. Supporting funds from him were few and far between. And when money did come in, he spent it on parties, new electronics, etc. No savings or serious help with the bills. I started to fudge about our balances, and to leave out when I got extras like a uniform allowance. If he asked for $100, I'd give him $50 and tell him I didn't go to the ATM that day - even if I had $250 in my purse. Thank god we still kept everything separate. I was never well-off, but I came into this relationship with a salary, savings, investments, insurance, a credit card I never maxed out, and one bank loan. Even my student loan was paid off. Within four years, I had sold investments, borrowed from the bank, maxed out my credit card and opened new ones. I felt stifled, resentful and angry.

Then I got pregnant — and terrified, and disgusted. The arguments escalated. I started saying `No'. He said didn't appreciate my lack of support. So I started saving to leave him. He is unreliable, untrustworthy and unresponsive. Not that we haven't talked and argued about this stuff. I'll never threaten divorce no matter how bad the argument. Why give him notice?! I just plan to walk with my little one when my plan reaches or nears fulfillment This marriage will bankrupt me in the end at this rate.